Itu adalah salah satu kutipan yang paling aku ingat dari buku whatever you think, think the opposite-nya paul arden.
dan aku betul-betul terinspirasi dengan dua kata itu.rasanya kata
itulah yang harus selalu kuucapkan berulang kali pada diri sendiri
untuk memacu agar aku menjadi berbeda, unik dan menonjol diantara
banyak orang.
Reframing!
Reframing!
Reframing!
Change the way you see the world and you change yourself!
Sepenggal kalimat itu adalah judul buku panduan WALHI yang baru terbit. Seharian ini saya membaca dan memelototi buku yang saya sungguh suka sampul dan isinya. Hari ini juga mulai pertemuan tahunan keenam yang saya ikuti selama saya beraktivitas di WALHI.
Hari ini juga saya meyakini bahwa saya belum menjadi seorang environmentalis sejati, meski 6 tahun terakhir WALHI adalah hidup saya. Menjadi seorang pencinta lingkungan ternyata lebih sulit dari yang dibayangkan. Dan untuk jatuh cinta kepada lingkungan continuously and rigorously itu lebih susah lagi.
Cinta lingkungan akan membawa kita mencintai hal lain diluar diri kita sendiri, akan mengajari kita untuk berbagi dan akan membuat kita menjadi manusia sejati. Selama ini saya sadari bahwa rutinitas sering membawa kita menjauh dari realitas dan kata hati. Kita sibuk dengan diri kita dan dunia kita sendiri, kadang tanpa sadar bahwa ada dunia lain yang mengitari.
Dari buku yang sederhana tadi saya belajar bahwa mencintai lingkungan bukan karena bakat atau bawaan lahir, tapi itu adalah pilihan diri. Menjadi environmentalis sejati juga tidak perlu basa-basi, tapi yang penting niat dan mau melakukan hal kecil utk mulai beraksi.
Duuuuuhhh…ternyata saya memang belum menjadi environmentalis sejati!
What is a friend? I will tell you.
It is a person with whom you dare to be yourself.
Your soul can be naked with him.
He seems to ask of you to put on nothing,
Only to be what you are.
He does not want you to be better or worse.
You do not have to be on your guard.
You can say what you think, so long as it is
genuinely you.
He understands those contradictions in your
nature that lead others to misjudge you.
With him you breathe freely.
You can avow your little vanities and envies and
hates and vicious sparks,
Your meanness and absurdities and, in opening
them up to him,
They are lost, dissolved on the white ocean of his
loyalty.
He understands. You do not have to be careful.
You can abuse him, neglect him, and tolerate him.
Best of all, you can keep still with him. It makes no
matter. He likes you.
He is like fire that purges to the bone. He
understands.
You can weep with him, sin with him, laugh with
him, and pray with him.
Through it all - and underneath - he sees, knows
and loves you for who you really are.
A friend? What is a friend? Just one, I repeat, with
whom you dare to be yourself.
1. My hands are small. Please don’t expect perfection whenever I make a bed, draw a picture or throw a ball. My legs are short. Please slow down so that I can keep up with you.
2. My eyes have not seen the world as yours have. Please let me explore safely. Don’t restrict me unnecessarily.
3. Housework will always be there. I’m only little for such a short time. Please take time to explain things to me about this wonderful world, and do so willingly.
4. My feelings are tender. Please be sensitive to my needs. Don’t nag me all day long. (You wouldn’t want to be nagged for your inquisitiveness.) Treat me as you would like to be treated.
5. I am a special gift from God. Please treasure me, holding me accountable for my actions, giving me guidelines to live by and disciplining me in a loving manner.
6. I need your encouragement and your praise to grow. Please go easy on the criticism. Remember, you can criticize the things I do without criticizing me.
7. Please give me the freedom to make decisions concerning myself. Permit me to fail so that I can learn from my mistakes. Then someday, I’ll be prepared to make the kind of decisions life requires of me.
8. Please don’t do things over for me. Somehow that makes me feel that my efforts didn’t quite measure up to your expectations. I know it’s hard, but please don’t try to compare me with my brother or my sister.
9. Please don’t be afraid to leave for a weekend together. Kids need vacations from parents, just as parents need vacations from kids. Besides, it’s a great way to show us kids that your marriage is very special.
10. Please take me to worship regularly, setting a good example for me to follow.
Poso and Tentena, both are no man’s land
Life is cheap, conflicts are grand
Like a witches on her wand
You can ask whatever you want
People are playing God
And fighting over their God
Outsider can only said blessed us God
The nature is rich
So rich that you cant choose which one you wish
Only in one glich
You can make yourself rich
Sangira, early august 2006
Pernah ga sih lo jatuh sayang ama orang?
Jatuh sayang tuh beda ama jatuh cinta lho…
Gw lagi jatuh sayang ama salah satu temen gw. Sebenernya lucu juga, karena gw bukan orang yang gampang jatuh sayang ama orang (dan biasanya lebih sering jatuh cinta,meski cuma sesaat, hehehe…)
Tapi untuk tahu gimana2nya, lo mesti cobain sendiri, nanti ceritain ya gimana rasanya.
Have a good day!
Pernah ga kepikir gimana kalo bisa main seluncur di pelangi? Kayanya seru ya bisa milih warna sesuai mood hari itu dan terserah kemana warna itu bakal berujung…
Hari ini warna gw hijau, katanya sih hijau itu not quite blue but not as bright as yellow. Jadi lebih receptive dan waspada. Hijau juga melambangkan kesabaran dan hal2 baru yang segar, semoga hari ini juga akan begitu.
Happy green day!
The corporations have asked us to trust them. But even the paragon of “corporate social responsibility” is saying one thing and doing quite another.
Tomorrow, when the cleaners move into the Sandton Centre in Johannesburg, the United Nations will claim that something has been rescued from the wreckage of the earth summit. Governments may not have delivered, but big business has. The world’s biggest corporations, with the UN’s blessing, have negotiated a series of “partnership agreements”—voluntary commitments obliging those companies to respect the environment and defend human rights—which will be recorded as official outcomes of the summit. These, they claim, will show that international law is not required to force corporations to respect human rights and the environment. Governments appear to agree, which may be one reason why they have seemed so relaxed about the survival of the planet: why legislate if the world can be saved by promises?
But just as the chief executives congratulate each other, a new report suggests that the partnership agreements are worthless. The company most clearly associated with “corporate social responsibility”, which has launched one of the new partnerships and sponsored some of the key events at the summit, appears to be saying one thing and doing just the opposite.
In a survey conducted by the Financial Times, BP was named as the firm which commands the most public respect for its environmental record. The energy company claims to run its operations according to a set of strict “business policies”, which have enabled it to become “a power for good in the world”. BP, the policies state, will “respect the rule of law”, defend “basic human rights and fundamental freedoms”, “be held accountable for our actions” and “will not choose business partners to do things on our behalf that contravene these commitments”. As an example of good practice, the company cites, in its statement on environmental and social reporting, the “major stakeholder consultation exercises” carried out in preparation for the Baku-Tblisi-Ceyhan oil pipeline project.
Last week, an international coalition of environmental and human rights groups published the results of their factfinding missions along the route of this pipeline. Their report suggests that, far from being a model of good practice, BP’s showcase project breaks both the commitments BP has published and the promises business leaders have made in Johannesburg. Their findings imply that those who imagine we can rely on trust to save the world are deceiving themselves.
The pipeline, whose construction is due to begin in December, runs from the Caspian Sea, through Azerbaijan, Georgia and Turkey to the Mediterranean. It will carry one million barrels of crude oil a day. One of most important energy projects on earth, it will reinforce Turkey’s position as a strategic ally of the west. The 1000 kilometres of pipeline running through Turkey will be built by the Turkish company Botas, on behalf of a consortium of oil firms led by BP.
Botas, which is responsible for the “major stakeholder consultation exercises” of which BP has boasted, claims to have distributed information “to all stakeholders” in the project, and to have consulted most of the villages along the route of the pipeline and nearly everyone else who might be affected by its construction. These assertions, the factfinding mission to Turkey suggests, are untrue.
The mission visited eight of the villages Botas claims to have consulted. Four of them, it discovered, had not been contacted at all. In the mission’s report there is a photograph of the village of Haçibayram, which Botas says it “consulted by telephone”. The houses are little more than piles of rubble: the entire village was deserted years ago. It has no telephones.
The consultations which did take place appear to have been designed to manufacture consent. The people Botas visited were asked what they felt the benefits of the pipeline might be, but were not questioned about the potential costs. Botas brought in “university professors”, who told the villagers, incorrectly, that there were no safety or environmental risks associated with the pipeline. The questionnaire noted that the pipeline is a Turkish government project “of high economic and strategic importance” to the country. The people who live along the route (some of whom are Kurds) are likely to have interpreted this as a coded warning that they speak out at their peril. Even the factfinding mission was stopped and questioned by police.
Though the construction of the pipeline will destroy homes, fields and roads and damage many people’s livelihoods, only a minority of those it affects are likely to receive compensation. Most of the land along the route is either not officially registered, or is held in the name of dead people. BP’s partner has told the villagers that it will compensate only those whose names are on the official register. No compensation at all has been offered to the fishing communities who will be affected by the construction of the tanker port at the end of the line.
Violations of this kind have been common practice in the oil industry for years, but what is new and astonishing about BP’s project is the contract struck between the oil companies and the government of Turkey, a copy of which the factfinding mission has obtained. The contract suggests that, far from being a model project led by an “accountable” corporation, the Baku-Ceyhan pipeline sets new standards for corporate impunity and domination. The pipeline’s “host government agreement” effectively grants the corporations executive power over the government.
The contract overrides all Turkish laws except the constitution. It insulates the oil companies from any change in either Turkish law or international law: if, for example, new taxes or new environmental or health and safety rules are introduced, the agreement takes priority. In effect, it forces Turkey to flout international law, in order to protect the consortium. BP appears to be legally exempt from paying compensation to anyone affected by oil spills or other impacts of the pipeline project. Turkey has promised that its security forces will defend the consortium from “civil disturbances”, but neither the government nor the companies are obliged by the agreement to respect human rights. BP may terminate the contract at any time. Turkey may not.
What BP and its partners have done, in other words, is to negotiate a contract which has the same effect as the Multilateral Agreement on Investment, the charter for corporate rights drawn up in secret by governments and corporations five years ago, but dropped when it caused an international outcry. The company which has promoted itself in Johannesburg as the exemplar of corporate responsibility, which has promised to respect the rule of law and “be held accountable” for its actions, has exempted itself from effective democratic control.
If BP —by common consent the most environmentally and socially responsible of all big companies—is prepared to play by these rules, it is hard to see why we should believe any of the promises made by big business in Johannesburg. Corporations will take what they can: when there is a conflict between profitability and the environment or human rights, the profits come first. Voluntary agreements, this case suggests, simply do not work. Big business will protect human rights and the environment only if it is forced to do so.
People is the face of a place. I will remember beautiful place for many reasons, but most often because of its people. People is the main determining factor for me to feel that i belong to certain place or not. Among those people there are few, sometimes too few, beautiful person(s).
Different people has their own judgement of what is beautiful person. Some judge by their outer physical appearances, many of us judge from the other side, i.e: inner side, personality, characters, even by their mind, soul and preferences. I belong to the second group. I dont judge book by its cover, ummm…sometimes i do, but only to decide whether or not i want to glance into the list of content
Along my three decades of life, different persons touched mine, leave a trails over time and much later develop a certain pathway which contributes significantly to who i am now. They all have one thing in common: they are all beautiful persons. And many of them become my friends for life. It doesnt matter where they come from, which belief they hold on to, which certain group they belong to. Some of them, i never see again till now, but for sure they teach me something that made me a much better person and help me go to another level in my Big, Real Life school.
So what does it take to be a beautiful person? For me its about certain qualities that is applied universally. Values and beliefs, of course, are not universal, but still humanities are universal. Beautiful persons are those who holds and believes in humanities. And they rigourously practice it in their daily life It reflects though in their aura: beautiful person usually shines, glows, stands out in the crowds and attract crowds as well So how beautiful are you?
When we meet the right person to love when we’re at the right place at the right time, that’s chance.
When you meet someone you’re attracted to, that’s not a choice.That’s chance.
Being caught up in a moment (and there’s a lot of couples who get together because of this) is not a choice.
That’s also a chance.
The difference is what happens afterwards.
When will you take that infatuation, that crush, that mind-blowing attraction to the next level?
That’s when all sanity goes back, you sit down and contemplate whether you want to make this into a concrete relationship or just a fling.
If you decide to love a person, even with his faults, that’s not a chance.
That’s choice.
When you choose to be with a person, no matter what, that’s choice.
Even if you know there are many people out there who are more attractive, smarter, and richer than your mate, and yet, you decide to love your mate just the same, that’s choice.
Infatuation, crushes, attraction comes to us by chance.
But true love that lasts is truly a choice.
A choice that we make.
Regarding soul mates, there’s a beautiful movie quote that I believe is so true about this: " Fate brings you together, but it’s still up to you to make it happen."
I do believe that soul mates do exist. That there is truly someone made for you. But it’s still up to you to make the choice if you’re going to do something about it or not. We may meet our soul mates by chance, but loving and staying with our soul mates is still a choice we have to make.
We came to the world not by finding someone perfect to love…
BUT to learn how to love an imperfect person perfectly…
