What is the risk of being in love?
People love to be fall in love (who doesnt anyway?). Sometimes i wonder whether people love to be fall in ‘love’ itself or just ‘fall in love’. For me the second explains better. I am a happy woman by any standard, but i love to fall in love. I fall in love regularly and intensively with anything. But most often, of course, with a man.
However, i restrained to be forced to fall in love by other people, including the man i fall for. I take control in a relationship over my feeling. One thing i hate most is turned to be a fool when i fall for someone . But of course,this wont always the case. That is what i called the risk # 1 of being in love.
Another thing is about self-image. I guess every one of us live up to certain belief of who we are. I am proud of my self-image as a thirty-something woman who knows what i wants in life. But when i do fall in love, there are many things that doesnt fit into the old frame. I found its quite amazing how much i transform my self-image into something that i dont even consider in my daily life. I give you a concrete example. In normal circumstances, i know that i am a very strong-willed woman cos i know if there is a will there will be a way. But in my love-dominated circumstances i believe i was born to be a complete follower, sometimes. I dont say necessarily its bad, but its just clearly outlined the risk # 2: your self-image about yourself might not be true
Self-image might not all you will sacrifice for when you are fall in love. The more worrying scenario for me is how much i am wiling to compromise myself before i turn into completely a new person,i.e: risk # 3. Sometimes when you are fall in love, you want to be able to like, or might be just tolerate, whatever the people you fall for like. I hate alternative music up to my single bone, but recently i fall for a man who will die for a ticket for a Green Day concert. And guess what, i still alive after listening to Green Day. What i am trying to say is falling in love makes you do things you never considered doing it before.
Risk # 4 is you can have a temporary, and might be permanent perceived handicaps. You blind, you deaf, you numb, you cant move because of love. You blind cos you only see the good things and you might fall for the wrong male species. You deaf cos you dont want to hear the hurtful truth that might ruin your love tale. You numb cos you dont want to tell what you really mean, what you really think and how things should be. Somehow love can chained you so strongly and in many occasions its hurt, ouuccchh….you cant move! Scary huh?
Risk # 5 is you might do things you will regret it later. This is only a logical consequences of risk # 1-4
However, the question now is do we need to scary to fall in love? For me, the consequences of sad and bad love affairs is similar with when i taste bad food. It makes you throw out, and sometimes sick, but it doesnt stop you from eating. You will die if you go for a hunger strike just because of bad food, even with some food-poisoning cases. Same story for bad love stories. And beside, hey…love is all we need to live up our boring life!
Another argument to defend my constant and regular fall for love is again, like a food testing. You want something that is not available everyday in your plate, thats why once in a while you dine out in a restaurant. When you find a good place to eat you tend to make it your favorite restaurant and you go there every now and then. But you cant afford to go there for every meal! Even if you do, it will lose its specialness and it become regular for you and again soon you will find another restaurant. So really the key is how to keep its specialness. Same advice for fall in love; Enjoy every moment of it but dont crave for it three meals a day! If we take the analogy for a food further, as any dedicated food hunter do, look for a review, listen to what the crowds said, taste, learn, taste and learn…and before you know you might enjoy the sensation that it bring! (Note: I am not saying that you should convert to be like me)
Last but not least, is it bad to find a new restaurant while you already have a good favorite restaurant and good cook at home? I dont think so. Life is too short to waste on only few things. Besides, at the end of the day you will only comeback to the best…
